Understanding the physiology of Shame and its role in development
November 21, 2019
Hosted by Dr. Madeleine De Little
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Episode Description
Shame is a ubiquitous human experience. It is used in every culture to socialize children and to protect the tribe. Healthy shame has purpose, function and teaching us how to thrive in community. But toxic shame debilitates us and isolates us from humanity. It is different from other emotions. Our physiological reaction to shame helps us to maintain the interpersonal bridges that are imperative for our survival. It increases the likelihood of being embraced by and remaining a part of the tribe. It is the best solution for a seemingly impossible situation. But when shame is internalized and identified with, we spiral into self-loathing and form the belief that we are without value or purpose and therefor unlovable. Releasing the underpinning of toxic shame restores vibrancy, self-esteem, resilience and self-reliance.
Where Words Can’t Reach: Shedding Light on our Dark Side
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Do you find yourself, thinking you are not good enough or that you are not loveable? Often there are few words to express such experiences. This is probably based in the way we made meaning of our early relationships and is shame based. Burdened by shame, parts of us stay hidden for fear of being cast out by family and friends. This show assists you to understand the impact that shame has on the relationship with ourselves and others. Neuroscience also informs us that our buried unconscious memories hold vast amounts of information that the body knows, but the conscious mind does not. This program opens up a conversation about the world of shame, how it has been needed in our past and the cost that comes with holding on to it. We delve into the world of darkness by listening to professionals who help people transform their shame. In addition, we invite listeners like you to speak of their journey of shedding light on their dark side.
Dr. Madeleine De Little
Dr. De Little has extensive experience working with children and adults who are unable to use words to describe their unspeakable experiences. She assists people, through the world of metaphor to free themselves of their dark and hidden emotions.
Dr. De Little has been a student for ten years of Transformational Systemic Therapy in Canada and she is currently the Research Chair of the Satir Institute of the Pacific. Her studies of the latest developments in neuroscience and transformational change have led her to develop a unique model of sand tray therapy and write a book, "Where Words Can’t Reach. Neuroscience and the Satir Model in the Sand Tray" 2nd Edition. Her book has been translated into Mandarin and Czech.
Dr. De Little has been a therapist for 30 years and currently works in private practice. Her particular interest is in working with all ages to facilitate the transformation of the impact of trauma and the shame that accompanies it, using metaphors in the form of miniatures in the sand tray.
Dr. De Little is an international trainer in her model of transformation using the sand tray. She is currently training medical doctors, pediatricians, psychiatrists and therapists around the world to use her model. In particular she is training professionals to learn and teach her model throughout China. She is also a Master Therapeutic Counsellor and a Registered Clinical Supervisor.
Episode Directory
November 2019
- 11/28/2019: Love and Betrayal Listen Now
- 11/21/2019: Understanding the physiology of Shame and its role in development Listen Now
- 11/14/2019: What happens after getting out of the cult called NXIVM Listen Now
- 11/7/2019: Melting the Shame Freeze Listen Now
